Obituary of William Young
William Holton Young
Dad was well loved by all who knew him. A man of many accomplishments, he never spoke of any of them. What he cared about was his family, his community, the Hamilton Tiger-Cats and a good martini. Ancaster was his home for 95 of his 98 years.
Dad died peacefully on Friday, April 21. He leaves behind Joyce, his beloved wife of almost 71 years, his three children Doug (Rosemary Shockman), Cathy Phillips (John) and Bill (Janet); his seven grandchildren Kate (Arthur Ruff), Michael, Jamie, Caroline (Cheryl Gudz), Will, Nicky and Sarah, and two great-grandchildren Charlie and Tenzin; as well as his brother Ben. He was predeceased by his brothers Doug (died in Normandy in 1944) and David and his sister Babs Woods.
Born in Hamilton in 1918, he attended Hillfield and Lakefield Colleges, and graduated from Royal Military College (H2552) with a degree in military science (as he always said, try and find anyone else with that degree!). He served as an officer in the Royal Canadian Artillery for the entire duration of WWII, much of it on the Italian front.
He had a very successful business career and was actively involved in the community. He was the CEO of the Hamilton Group Limited, originally started by his grandfather as the Hamilton Cotton Company in 1880, and together with his brothers led it through a number of successful expansions and transitions. He served on the boards of numerous companies such as Stelco, Gulf Canada, National Trust, Harding Carpets and the Hamilton Tiger-Cats as well as non-profit boards such as the Stratford Festival, the McMaster Medical School and as Chairman of Hillfield and Strathalllan College. He proudly served as the Honorary Colonel of the Argyll and Sutherland Highlanders for many years and continued to stay in touch with the regiment and his RMC class to his dying day.
But as important as his career and his community were to him, there were two more important influences in his life: the death of his older brother Doug and the marriage to his wife Joyce.
Doug was Bill’s best friend and role model. He was deeply affected by his death. He didn’t talk about it much, but it made him value even more the importance of family love and human connection. He didn’t much care about recognition or material success. He just cared about being kind, conveying warmth, displaying grace and figuring out the best way he could help any of the rest of us.
At the centre of his life was Joyce. They were each other’s best friend and brought out the best in one another. They worked together closely on all important matters and never kept score. Countless people would reference their marriage when asked about the best marriage they had ever seen, and numerous of our friends saw them as surrogate parents because of their always open and generous natures.
The extended families and friends frequently gathered at the cottage in Muskoka and at their home in Ancaster. Dad was the consummate host. His warmth, generosity, the ever present twinkle in his eye, the crackling fire and the fact that no one ever had an empty glass, made everyone feel very welcome and completely at home. His martinis were legendary and his special “vesper” concoction at Christmas drew large crowds before we sat down to Christmas dinner.
There are so many stories that will live on and provide comfort and laughter while we grieve the loss of this extraordinary man. If you see a family member, ask us about beaver wars, Gertrude Stein versus Mrs. Shufflewick, cannelloni stuffing, the day the Bent River General Store never opened, Mom’s chic red jacket that went to Goodwill and the first 65 years are the toughest. You will help us get through his loss and you will be given a good belly laugh in the process.
We would like to thank the staff of the Belmont House for their considerate care, and especially his caregivers Marta and Glen.
A celebration of his life will take place on Saturday, April 29 at THE YORK CLUB, 135 St. George Street, Toronto. Doors open at noon and family remarks will begin at 12:45 p.m.
In lieu of flowers, and if desired, donations can be made to the Hamilton Community Foundation or the Argyll and Sutherland Highlanders of Canada.